Tribe.net. Local Connections -> http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#2582a546-e6b8-49f7-9dec-e146206cf133 2009-06-23T18:18:03Z 2009-06-23T18:18:03Z

Kudos for keeping on with your garden despite your surrounding. I've been reading The Omnivore's Dilemma and have gotten to the section on grass farming. I really like the book but it is so thick with information I have to take breaks. Ganbatte Yadda Yadda!

-> 2009-06-23T18:18:03Z yadda yadda http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#17a6e1fb-aaa4-49cc-a70d-0eca46d30994 2009-06-23T18:00:13Z 2009-06-23T18:00:13Z

No their are no organic gardening clubs here. I live in a town of 720 people where industrial farming is king. Gardening here is all about chemicals. Botanical Gardens are a 2 1/2 hour drive away and the County Extension has no classes or workshops. So I just keep on keeping on, building the soil and growing beautiful veggies. Perhaps the neighbors will notice and ask how I did it. Perhaps. I spent the first two years here trying to find ways to connect with the locals. I joined quilters guilds, did service and charity work, attended all the area functions, searched for people with whom I might have something in common, but I'm just too different. I've since given up. Fortunately I'm a geek and am perfectly capable of entertaining myself. Thanks for all the good suggestions. I appreciate the input.

yadda yadda 2009-06-23T18:00:13Z Blarrgh http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#9457469d-1aa4-4dc7-a142-71bb7ef8a309 2009-06-23T17:35:17Z 2009-06-23T17:35:17Z

Yadda the post wasn't specifically aimed at you it was just a general post trying to encourage people to also do things for themselves particularly if they don't live here in the bay area. I definitely would never describe myself as being particularly good "at dating" either. For me it took years to over come being a nervous wreck just talking to a woman, and yes I do mean as an adult. As for organic gardening are there any gardening clubs in your area, possibly at a botanical garden (your state botanical garden usually, but sometimes there are several) etc? I know some states even have wildflower societies devoted to the propagation and enjoyment of native wildflowers. They often talk about gardening tips, and go on hikes to photograph the flowers etc. The nice thing is sometimes if they are well organized they can get the stupid state DOT to actually plant native flowers instead of invasives along the side of the road and elsewhere. Me personally I have a thing for carnivorous plants and the state I grew up in had carnivorous plants so I was part of the state carnivorous plant society. As for faire and dressing up etc it's fun, but I do recommend getting together with people to go. My friends and I go at least once a year and sometimes we make a weekend of it and camp next to one of the faires. Anyhoo if you can get people together to make costumes it's great learning experience. Now "Getting dressed up in clothes I never wear..." ha you mean I wasn't supposed to wear my ren faire costume to the restaurant! Besides you'll have a Halloween costume. They are all just suggestion to get your mind thinking in hopefully ways you haven't thought about in order to find stuff you do like to do and how to go about finding others doing those things. I would highly recommend you start by first looking to see if the state botanical garden has a website. If they do see if they mention any gardening societies, if they don't then give them a call and see if they can tell you of any. They might not be organic gardening, but it's a start and you might be able to steer people in that society over to the "greener" side. If you want specific suggestions PM me and let me know where you live (in general terms city or state). Kudos on the organic thing I'm sure it's a ton of fun....now where can I make a bog hmmmm

Blarrgh 2009-06-23T17:35:17Z yadda yadda http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#ee1bb072-0cd6-449e-8a62-4905cbdc5f1f 2009-06-23T16:12:15Z 2009-06-23T16:12:15Z

When I mentioned fake profiles I meant the ones on dating sites, as we started out talking about Geek 2 Geek. I never expected our dear moderator to be in charge of my social life. I think it's awesome that y'all in the Bay area can manage to get together. I've never been particularly good at "dating". Getting dressed up in clothes I never wear to go do things I never do doesn't seem a very good way to meet people. The relationships I've had always started out as friendships with people I met doing something I love to do. Too bad Organic Gardening is a solo activity. At least it is here.

yadda yadda 2009-06-23T16:12:15Z Grrr Argh http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#2290c2fa-f03f-4b6a-bd83-f5e134cb464e 2009-06-23T15:21:49Z 2009-06-23T15:21:49Z

Dale, you're such a smartie : ).

Grrr Argh 2009-06-23T15:21:49Z Blarrgh http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#6ba376d9-e22e-4001-ae42-fc6120771c16 2009-06-22T07:18:59Z 2009-06-22T07:18:59Z

As such as you get down on yourselves about women not wanting what you have to offer there will always be people that do. All I can say is don't lose hope and do what you can to be active and meet people like yourselves. Also I feel sometimes that when I was single I put too much importance on the idea that being with someone was what was necessary for my life to be complete and feel good about myself. One thing you should learn is to feel good about yourselves regardless whether there is someone special in your life. I'm not saying that is the key to get someone, but it does help you move forward and enjoy life without dwelling on what you don't have and enjoy what you do have. The other things I suggest is -> がんばる can't do everything and often she is no where near where some of the tribe members are. Try and organize meetings or events for your local areas. Also as stated tribe has be down many times and the population is dropping why not try forming your own "tribes" etc on other sites to bring people together with mutual interests, but I do feel that it's very important that the meetings stress fun and they are more of a social setting as opposed to all about dating that was the great thing about some of the meetings organized for this tribe. Get people to say "hey this is happening tonight or at this time lets all meet up", but make sure not to cling to the hope many will show just go and do something YOU enjoy and invite others. Once people go ask them to leave comments or feedback on the site to encourage others and make the other outings better. Also do things that you've never done just to experience it and enjoy learning with others after all you're a GEEK! and it's all about the learning etc. As for fake profiles honestly who cares if you can meet people through the forums and chat with them most likely you'll get more of a feeling for who they are, and if nothing else you might be able to tell how honest their profile is. Better to know someone in a tribe etc than just do a random search through profiles. Also remember friends don't let friends play Alliance :P

Blarrgh 2009-06-22T07:18:59Z -> http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#5bcd2254-d118-4400-80d5-49639609f2b2 2009-06-21T19:37:01Z 2009-06-21T19:37:01Z

Like the friends testimonial in Tribe?

-> 2009-06-21T19:37:01Z Tommaso http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#c5838e09-6e5a-4f36-b53a-52957118ffe8 2009-06-21T13:29:42Z 2009-06-21T13:29:42Z

a smart dating site would allow people to have their friends describe them, giving a more accurate idea of what a person is like.

Tommaso 2009-06-21T13:29:42Z Tommaso http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#322be778-1fdc-4032-b5a8-35facea2ded4 2009-06-21T13:28:19Z 2009-06-21T13:28:19Z

well i'm not saying thats what i'm looking for, its just that some fake profiles are more obvious that others and that is just a bit insulting.

Tommaso 2009-06-21T13:28:19Z -> http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#798288a1-7a3a-4fd6-8ac8-117d1b5b1600 2009-06-11T18:04:51Z 2009-06-11T18:04:51Z

Thanks Ray. :) I may not have framed my post effectively, I made the 'alas' comment because Geek Dating has been so dormant and I really enjoyed the social gathering aspect of it. I actually am seeing someone right now. Things are good, he accepts me as I am, and in agreement with the stuff I listed above. The thing is, as much as we think there is nobody out there for us, there are actually billions of options out there, each having many different combinations of interests, perspectives, and attributes. We can't sit and wait for the proverbial fish to throw itself into our bucket, we have to get out there. As much as standing on the side of the river seems like a way to fish, it is, but you are more likely to get fish if you wade in or paddle to the places where fish like to go. I guess I was trying to say: 1] Don't give up hope 2] Do the work, keep at it and enjoy yourself rather than waiting for it to hapen

-> 2009-06-11T18:04:51Z BiteMe http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#f9378b8a-397b-4360-a4ac-1ea7d1e449ad 2009-06-11T14:01:22Z 2009-06-11T14:01:22Z

Seriously? I'm guessing it's more presentation than content. Have you had someone who knows/loves you look over your profile on there? Sometimes our descriptions of ourselves don't come off as intended or in a flattering light. Sometimes the pics we put up aren't good choices for a dating profile (like those guys wearing ball caps or with their arm around a girl whose face has been cut out of the picture).

BiteMe 2009-06-11T14:01:22Z Ray http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#eb17b081-7e6e-4a15-8b79-39620549659f 2009-06-11T08:11:42Z 2009-06-11T08:11:42Z

P.S. I know someone very similar to you who did get married and is happy 'cept for the bad economy....

Ray 2009-06-11T08:11:42Z Ray http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#e767018f-dd71-4172-91fe-21b6c575305b 2009-06-11T08:10:19Z 2009-06-11T08:10:19Z

->, I would'nt give up hope. I've had many male geekish friends who would like someone like you, in many ways you're perfect, although you may not see that from your own vantage point. I would go for you myself, except I DO want kids; otherwise, I would tottaly date you as is. Don't give up hope! Also, from my past, and, shortly to be my future, going out in places where similar geeks would hang out is a great way to meet people. (HUG)

Ray 2009-06-11T08:10:19Z -> http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#af841fcb-b874-4f04-8c98-44bcde259252 2009-06-11T06:14:23Z 2009-06-11T06:14:23Z

My profile isn't fake [though due to some local politics, I have made a lot of my profile more private]. I am a 38 year old woman [big strike 1- over 30] I don't want kids but do want marriage [impossible combo] I am not femmey [ also a strike] I am more nerdy than many I want an egalitarian relationship where gender roles are thrown out the window to be replaced by something self-made. [believe it or not, there's very few people out there who actually want that] Oh, and I am bisexual but have zero desire to do the 3-way with a guy. Again not totally marketable. So of all these seemingly bad things ... I still put myself out there and I still have gotten dates with non-fake people, with non fake profiles. Most of the dates I have had over the Internet actually have been through Geek dating. I've met quite a few people who have become good friends, which is a total boon. I also have had two relationships through Geek Dating and am thankful for that. Part of the benefit was that we had events wherein real people could meet in real life. I tried to make the events so that there was not any pressure of dating so much as just everyone getting a chance to know one another. I can't speak for others, but I must say that I am greatful that I know some of the more active members from the past. I hope to get things going again, but I fear that since Tribe has been down and dying, and since some of my more social womenGeeks have found guys, it will be next to impossible to recreate what we had before. Alas.

-> 2009-06-11T06:14:23Z yadda yadda http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#5b90ad2c-5df8-4d81-bb44-83035108ff05 2009-06-10T22:52:58Z 2009-06-10T22:52:58Z

I'm pretty sure most profiles are fake. Honesty gets you nowhere in the dating world. What if I posted this... Hi, I'm a 45 year old (strike one) small business owner (strike two) slightly overweight single parent (strike three and can you have a strike four?) who likes to garden, play online games, read obscure books, and work on my house (stick a fork in me, I'm done). Still wonder why people lie on their profiles? My profiles are always honest. Maybe that's my problem

yadda yadda 2009-06-10T22:52:58Z Timbozo http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#b25d753f-834b-4173-9227-a1079c99f434 2009-06-10T19:54:39Z 2009-06-10T19:54:39Z

Tommaso, I know someone kind of like that actually. She likes to belly dance and go to conventions and likes meeting new geeks all the time. Not that I believe that profile or anything...but she just might post her profile to see what happens...so don't lose hope of meeting someone like that. It's more a question of meeting them in reality than in someone elses fantasy profile.

Timbozo 2009-06-10T19:54:39Z Tommaso http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#7c214d6c-b216-4fd2-a34d-939b31612fec 2009-06-10T15:28:31Z 2009-06-10T15:28:31Z

well we could go on a rant about some of the obviously fake profiles that are there. really? a hot skinny asian chick with a big rack really likes to play d&d and date fat guys that live in their parents basement? but its also kinda neat just to see the variety of geeks out there, renn rats, book geeks, anime, movie/tv, roleplayers, tabletop gamers, etc never knew we were such a varied people.

Tommaso 2009-06-10T15:28:31Z -> http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#c456dc71-7560-4a9f-8a19-b305877d9965 2009-06-09T16:00:17Z 2009-06-09T16:00:17Z

I don't play LORTO because I would flake on the real world. I do play LOTRBFME and -love- starting out with Pippin. He has the best lines. :)

-> 2009-06-09T16:00:17Z yadda yadda http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#e3b664fc-c630-4dd8-8ea8-0d76e35051e9 2009-06-09T15:33:57Z 2009-06-09T15:33:57Z

hahaha. Personally I like hobbits, ever see one laugh? I like my MMORPG and since there aren't any other geeks where I live LOTRO is my only contact with like minds outside of tribe.

yadda yadda 2009-06-09T15:33:57Z -> http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#cfe5b6b8-274b-4568-b12e-03faceddc7c0 2009-06-09T13:40:53Z 2009-06-09T13:40:53Z

Oh sure, date an elf. Meet someone who is an inherent supermodel who lives forever, get swept off your feet. Then it's "Oh I have to leave, sail into the West." or "Hey yeah things were fun, but I have to get up to the North Pole and make toys, time's a ticking and there are so many kids nowadays with John and Kate, plus Octomom." :)

-> 2009-06-09T13:40:53Z Timbozo http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#138e3270-a2c1-49e1-bd67-5d263e136f19 2009-06-09T07:19:08Z 2009-06-09T07:19:08Z

Elves. Sheesh.

Timbozo 2009-06-09T07:19:08Z Timbozo http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#d809cca2-9895-4412-b38e-01bfab1d68df 2009-06-09T07:18:52Z 2009-06-09T07:18:52Z

Perhaps you could start dating elfs?

Timbozo 2009-06-09T07:18:52Z yadda yadda http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#14ec019b-eb87-4477-93b7-4118f9542529 2009-06-08T19:02:19Z 2009-06-08T19:02:19Z

I created a profile at that site. Found plenty of goobers wanting a date but no geeks. Probably has more to do with my geographical location than with the site. Not sure where one would go to meet other geeks. We so seldom venture out of our basements. Besides, if I were to start dating it would cut into my LOTRO time.

yadda yadda 2009-06-08T19:02:19Z -> http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#c6a5d494-f1ac-440f-be59-3e92e1ec1c2e 2009-06-08T16:59:23Z 2009-06-08T16:59:23Z

Hi Tommaso, So what type of conversational topic can we build from this? I would love to start conversations going in this tribe again. :)

-> 2009-06-08T16:59:23Z Tommaso http://geekdating.tribe.net/thread/fe352ad9-55ee-482e-9179-dde0ba56c5b6#05bd119a-4b8b-4da2-bef0-dc1125ecedd4 2009-06-06T12:22:03Z 2009-06-06T12:22:03Z

gk2gk.com not a whole lot of people on it, but it does have alot of geek search options.

Tommaso 2009-06-06T12:22:03Z